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Articulating Pain as Survival: Why Being “Good at Explaining” Isn’t a Gift

Barbara Guimaraes, LMSW Episode 10

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What does it mean when people tell you that you “articulate your pain so well”?
 In this episode of Mental Nesting, licensed therapist and nervous system coach Barb reflects on how clearly explaining pain is often not a strength, but a survival adaptation formed in environments where belief was conditional.

This episode explores the emotional and nervous system cost of having to translate suffering into language that others can tolerate. From invisible illness and mental health diagnoses to childhood exhaustion and adulthood burnout, Barb unpacks the difference between being validated and being required to prove pain in order to receive care.

This is a reflective, non-instructional episode about being believed versus performing pain, the grief of conditional support, and what changes when you no longer have to collapse to be taken seriously.

If you have ever felt pressure to stay calm, reasonable, or articulate while explaining something that hurts deeply, this episode is for you.

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